Tuesday, August 29, 2006

32 Scoops with whipped cream, nuts and a cherry!

Each year, the month of August seems to get more and more painful. Usually I stress about what I didn't do, where I'm not in my life, and how much of my youth has gone by without me. I have been living in yesterday, dreading tomorrow and bitching about it the whole time. I have some great friends that listen to the whining, and occasionally throw a slap of reality my way. I come to for a moment of self discovery, and then usually slide back into my world of self-pitty.

No one or thing or action or event is going to change my life, although I keep thinking it will. Those major life events that I have been desperately searching for and living for, are not going to make the sunshine come out and make my world a shining happy place. Only I can turn things around.

I spout off about living in the moment, being mindfull of what you are doing right now. But do I actually practice mindfulness? Not without a LOT of thought. I do it for a few days, and then something else grabs my attention and I go spiraling back down.

For the last few years, my friends have known not to mention my birthday before the day, and to pretend not to hear my sighs and groans when someone mentions it or my age. This year I was again dreading the day, and strangely enough, it's not that bad. I'm not quite there yet, but I'm coming to terms that my "plan" has long been passed up by life.

I "know" in my brain that our plans change that we have to keep making new plans, and that we have to be flexible and adjust to what life throws at us, but its still hurts in my heart. I have to work and live for today. For right now. To make the best of what I have in front of me.

I'm not touting that from this day forward I will be a changed person. But I am going to try a little harder.

Happy Birthday to me!


J said...

Can I tell you that you are sounding wise, without making it sound like I'm calling you old?

Happy Birthday, and I hope they get more and more peaceful as the years go by. Also that you get everything you want, and happiness in there as well.

Gina said...

Yes, I know exactly what you mean about "knowing" plans change, but yet feeling very differently when they do!

Again, Happy B-day!

Ally Bean said...

But do I actually practice mindfulness?

That's a good question for all of us. And this post makes me think that you do. Enjoy the now, eh?

Maya's Granny said...

Cherry, It gets easier as you get older. I love being 64 and the fact that I never went into space or dug up Incan ruins or staffed a light house doesn't bother me any longer. Hell, I never even worked as a reporter except for my college paper, and that was a more realistic plan.
You will find that what you have actually done with your life will be satisfactory in ways that your plans would never have been. That light house didn't include Julie and Richard, and I would have been impoverished without them. Hell, the musical career my father envisioned before he lost his hearing didn't include adding ships to the war effort or me -- and his life was so valuable and much better than so many musicians, no matter how famous they were.

Happy Birthday, Sweetie

Anonymous said...

Wiser is a gift we get with the passing of every year.
Happiness to you this year Cherry.

Tracy said...

Happy birthday dear Cherry...Happy Birthday to YOU!

P.S. After reading yesterday's post, I went out and bought Ben and Jerry's Choc. Chip Cookie Dough Ice Cream! Mmmmmm!

Jody said...

Happy Birthday Cherry. Cheers.